What guests receive

Rafa and Jen Morales are at their cap

2 of 2 in September. The second RSVP nudge would be the third, so they moved to a call.

This month

What to do
Lupe calls them instead, as planned
No family should feel pestered. Rafa and Jen are José's family, and they are on Lupe's call list today.

If a parent or the party writes

Lupe sees this on her page: "Better to call them. Rafa and Jen have had 2 emails this month." The household moves to her call list, and she is never told off.

The cap

It counts everything you, a parent for their own event, or the party send on their own initiative. A confirmation, an answer to a household's own question and a day-of alert never count.